Wednesday, January 28, 2009

he says he doesn't want drawing lessons, but............

he's always so pleased with himself after a lesson (he's only had two so far). Later, of course, he does the requisite complaining about his "homework", but then I see his face after he is done, and hear him say, "Dad! Come! Look!"

The pride is practically measurable.

I know he loves to draw, and so I ignore his complaints. You may think I am ignoring my child's needs, but I will tell you that I am doing just the opposite. I am listening to his whole body, not just his words. The sense of accomplishment he feels at the end comes from being pushed to face his insecurities, and it is up to me to do the pushing. It's a fine line, I know.

But isn't there something you wish YOUR parents had pushed you to do? And don't you regret it now?

Perhaps some day, Bennett will be as good as his teacher.

6 comments:

Friar Tuck said...

I wish I had been pushed to stay in band.

I wish somebody had pushed me to learn the guitar.

citizen of the world said...

Yes, I wish I had been pushed to stay with ballet. I have let my kids drop things they clearly harte, but I ignore passing complaints when it is clear they have both the love and talent for something.

The Burkles said...

Awesome drawing...I wish I had been pushed to study harder, and go to grad school

Feener said...

i think my husband wishes his folks pushed him in certain sports but for me i think i wish my parents knew about the career world to help me out in, but my dad was a cop and both parents did not have a college education so they were not exposed to that world.

Cindy Fey said...

wow! he's good!

Beth said...

I wish I'd been pushed to stay in dance lessons. Does a 4 year old really know what they like after 2 lessons?